Humor and Dementia

I have worked with dementia patients for over 25 years, and these stories make me laugh. I know it is not funny to you, I understand that, but, somehow it works better if you can not let it affect you. The person needs to be safe, and so does everyone in the house, and besides that it is just a constant surprise. I have seen people scream awful sexual obscenities that horrify family members, and I have seen terrible paranoia, crying bouts that last for days, mis-understandings of everything in the environment such as sounds or lights, attempts to go to work (even though the person hasn't worked for years or can not walk), worrying about their children (who are all adults and have children of their own), thinking their children are their spouses, and it just goes on and on. I often think about those times back in the 60's when there was a lot of drugs going around, and there were a few people who could "help" those who were having bad trips with compassion and words, but, sometimes it was necessary to get them to go to sleep until the drug wore off. In this case it will not wear off, but, things will change, and I find if I get into their world a little, give them cookies, and laugh a lot, it helps me. I hope everyone of you caregivers take care of yourselves and are able to find support and love for all you do!!!!!